If we have done our job properly in raising our children, each child should eventually one day fly from the nest and out into the world to create wondrous independent lives, relationships and experiences of their own. While it is easy to understand this intellectually and logically, it is a bittersweet moment in the lives of parent and child alike. At the moment that a child leaves for college or moves away from home due to job or marriage/relationship, something irrevocably energetically changes in the parent-child relationship. The young vulnerable prince or princess that was born into your life is now a self-sufficient young adult with talents and gifts to share out in the world as they learn more about who they are through their relationships with others away from parental influence. Yes, things will never be the same… for child or parent.
When a child leaves home for college or other reasons, it is natural for parents to experience a mixture of emotions: pride at their child’s accomplishments, anxiety over their child’s safety in the world at large, joy and wonder to see their child spread their wings to fly, sadness over a sense of loss of nearness of a loved one, and occasional overwhelming rushes of bittersweet emotions as you reminisce over your child’s major milestones in life (birth, learning to walk, first day in kindergarten, learning to ride a bike, birthday celebrations, accomplishments, graduations, etc).
Young adults also have their own mix of emotions over making the transition from home to college or self-sufficiency. It is common for children leaving home to experience excitement over anticipated new experiences and friendships, fear of possible failure, angst over being away from parents who have been their in support of them emotionally and financially, sadness over distance from and loss of siblings/friends/significant others, and thirst/desire for knowledge or expanding their talents/gifts.
What can be done to ease the transition for both parent, young adult and siblings as the nest becomes less crowded?
Tips to Ease the Stress of ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’: Read More→
Father’s Day is a day of celebration of our Fathers – or, if we did not have a great experience with our own father figures or male mentors, then it is a celebration of the concept of the Divine Male which we hold within each of us- expressed or unexpressed. Among the qualities of the Divine Male are Courage, Compassion, Strength, Honor, Integrity, Wisdom and Indomitable Spirit. When we come together on any specific day or any specific time to focus on and energize a concept, then we actually energize that quality within all human consciousness. In 2012 Father’s Day falls during the Balsamic Moon or Wishing Moon, the best time to Put Wishes On The Air (June 15th – 18th). It is also known as the Witch’s Moon, the best time to Bring to Mind Those That Need Healing. Let’s ALL celebrate Father’s Day and may we all seek to express that which it embodies within our daily lives!!!
Imagination is the most powerful thing that we possess. It is the thought fueled by the intention (or emotional energy) behind it. That is why, if we have conflicting intentions/imagined things, the most powerful one will win out and be created… unless they are of equal value and then they may just cancel each other out and nothing happens.
Meditation studies have been done where, for instance, a group of thousands of people gathered in Washington, DC imagined/pictured/intended/meditated on peace; and the crime rate in DC went down significantly during the 10 days of gathering. That is the power of group intention. That is the importance of each of us SHIFT-ing out of old negative, reactive constructs or patterns in our lives.
It IS important to become aware of those “shadow aspects” (areas of darkness) in our selves and then to bring Light to that to transform it (rather than stuffing it down and burying it). Read More→
Memorial Day was originally called ‘Decoration Day’ and was established as a day of remembrance for those who have died in our nation’s service. Memorial Day was first observed on 30 May 1868, when flowers were placed on the graves of both Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery. It is a date of remembrance, honor and reconciliation. For many who have recently lost loved ones who served and gave their all for what they believed in, it can be a day of grieving over the fresh pangs of loss of their father, mother, son, daughter, brother, sister, friend, comrade or loved one.
Memorial Day is now celebrated in almost every state on the last Monday in May (passed by Congress with the National Holiday Act of 1971 (P.L. 90 – 363) to ensure a three day weekend for Federal holidays). For many this is most of what this holiday represents to them: a 3-day break from work or school to plan a vacation around.
Red Poppies began to be used as a symbol to wear in of honor those who had died in war or in service after Moina Michael wrote in 1919 the verse:
“We cherish too, the Poppy red
That grows on fields where valor led,
It seems to signal to the skies
That blood of heroes never dies.” Read More→
If you or someone you know has been feeling moody, tired, depressed, anxious, the autumn blahs or winter blues, you or they could be experiencing SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). SAD is a type of anxiety, sadness or depression that occurs at the same time of the year on a recurring basis. Symptoms often begin in the fall as the daylight hours shorten (often in October or November) and continue into the winter months (ending in January or February). Less frequently, SAD can be experienced by some in the spring with the lengthening of daylight hours (around April) and continues through the summer. Read More→
Dr. Tracy Latz, M.D., M.S. is a respected, board-certified, practicing integrative psychiatrist who has worked in the past “in the trenches” in a regional state psychiatric hospital and in local county mental health center systems in North Carolina as well as in community hospital settings. Dr. Latz received her bachelor degree in Biology from Wake Forest University, a masters degree in Immunobiology from Georgetown University, and her medical degree from Wake Forest University Medical School/Bowman Gray School of Medicine. She is now in solo private integrative psychiatric practice in a suburb of Charlotte, NC in Mooresville, NC. She has written a landmark article on PTSD/Dissociative Disorders in a peer-reviewed journal, co-authored 2 books on personal transformation, recorded 2 meditation CDs to assist others with creating inner peace, filmed self-help integrative medicine videos and DVDs, and has contributed to or been interviewed by many mainstream media outlets including CNN, Good Housekeeping, SELF, Glamour, AOL Health, Woman’s Day, Fitness, Whole Living, and Health – to name a few. You can find out more about Dr. Latz at www.shiftyourlife.com
Barefoot: Natural Stress Relief and Health Booster
I love digging in the dirt and feeling my connection to the Earth. I find walking barefoot in the grass to be a great stress reducer. I had a journalist ask me about this back in 2008 – he wanted to know why walking barefoot might be a “good” thing to do since it seemed to be “beat out of us” as we grew into adulthood. The following is what I told him over the phone… as I was walking barefoot in my backyard… and fussing at my boys who were playing basketball on the concrete driveway barefoot and stubbing their toes. Well, there IS a time for wearing shoes, right? Grin. (The story ran in The Raleigh News and Observer May 29, 2008 and was picked up by other news media around the U.S.) Read More→