Glamour Sep 2008
‘Get good lighting. Even if you’re a lights-on kind of girl, having sex in an overly bright room can ramp up body anxieties for women and men, says psychiatrist Tracy Latz, M.D. “Try using accent lights and candles, which cast a more flattering, natural glow around the room,” she suggests.’
‘This fear is common for both sexes but perhaps more potent for women since, historically, we live longer and many men tend to gravitate toward younger partners, giving them a wider pool from which to choose. However, when panic steers our decision-making, warns integrative psychiatrist Tracy Latz, MD, MS, “We make reactive choices that we would not likely make if we were living [in] a place of love and compassion for ourselves.” The co-author of Shift: 12 Keys to Shift Your Life continues, “We grab at the first opportunity for partnership because of constant faulty thoughts such as ‘What if nothing better comes along?’; ‘Beggars can’t be choosers’; and ‘Any warm body is better than nobody.’”’
‘However, if he is emphatic that his primary focus is on your inner beauty, it’s likely that your doubt is a product of your own self-image. Are you are defining yourself and your worthiness to be loved by your appearance? According to Marion Ross, co-author of Shift: 12 Keys to Shift Your Life, making a decision coming from a place of fear — like that of not looking fit enough for your partner — will typically lead us into making the wrong choice.’
‘Lower your expectations: Not so long ago, you could depend on certain things when you traveled. Like, that the room rate you were quoted would be the one you paid, plus maybe taxes. In an era or unfair resort fees and hidden charges for having a safe in your room — whether you use it or not — that’s probably not gonna happen. And this summer, you can be sure they’ll come up with a few new extras. “Be realistic about what to expect,” advises Marion Ross, the co-author of “Shift: 12 Keys to Shift Your Life.” “Then let everything else go.” In other words, expect to be taken advantage of. That way, you won’t be disappointed.’
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